Let’s be honest. The penis is not the most attractive part of a human body, male or female, in my opinion. So I don’t usually dwell on it. But it came up as part of a very important conversation about our unborn son. When we were in the hospital at 28 weeks for my pre-term labor scare, the nurse asked us if we planned to have our baby circumcised.
I had never thought about it, really, being averse to thinking about penises in general. My husband’s immediate reaction was, “yes, of course.” But I hesitated. Why be so quick to decide? It is really necessary to circumcise, or do we just do it because that is what is done? Is it true that it’s more hygienic to circumcise, or is that just a myth, and could it be better to leave your baby’s penis intact? Why do I feel like I’m writing an episode of “Sex and the City?”
Well, since Stewart was so convinced, I went along with him and said “yes” to the question also.
But then yesterday my friend Trevor came over to preach the Joys of Uncircumcising. He brought with him a 400-page binder that is full of testimonials and scientific-looking quotes about why it is better to have an “intact penis.” There are even diagrams and pictorial representations of the circumcision process. It was quite a revolting sight, if you ask me (which you didn’t, and if you’re too grossed out by now, you’re welcome to navigate off this site). I read a little bit of the literature and then chose not to think about it anymore.
Until Stewart came home. He found the book and exclaimed “what is THIS?!” He looked through it a little bit, too, and it didn’t seem to bother him. Then on the way to dinner we discussed it a bit more, and then AT DINNER with four other men and one other woman we discussed it even further. It seems people have strong opinions about this topic. One of our fellow diners had even videotaped his son’s circumcision in the hospital. He said he was curious, because of course he didn’t remember his own circumcision! And he did admit that the procedure made him feel faint.
I am intrigued by all of this because as I come closer to having a baby boy I am facing dealing with baby boy parts on a daily basis. And in the future I will have to answer his questions, or say “ask your father.” And hopefully his father will have answers, because HE’S the one who’s gonna be witnessing the circumcision procedure this time.