Tomorrow is the day of the Walt Disney World half marathon, the one that Lisa was training for, and also raising money to benefit the Lymphoma and Leukemia Society. After she died, her fundraising account swelled with donations from people wanting to honor her memory. She became the second highest fundraiser in the nation for this race, earning her an honor at the Team in Training Inspiration dinner tonight, the eve of the race.
Her Team in Training captains in Los Angeles knew this was going to happen, and so they asked me to pen a speech to be read at the dinner.
Oh, how I wish Lisa had been there to read her own words. In her place, a representative read this speech that I sent:
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At the time of her death, Lisa was well on her way to her fundraising goal of $4,500. She was able to gather support from every community she touched – as a physician, she had a large base of support from the medical community. Her family and friends, who witnessed Lisa’s incredible and inspiring journey from cancer patient to triathlete, were among her greatest supporters. She also gathered the admiration of strangers worldwide by telling her story on her blog and using Twitter and Facebook.
News of Lisa’s death spread via personal message and internet updates, and within ten days her fundraising goal had been reached and surpassed. Because of the power of Lisa’s story, friends, family, and strangers alike have donated money to this cause.
As an driven professional, Lisa had allowed physical fitness to take a back seat in her busy life. She was a neonatologist at Children’s Hospital in Los Angeles with a grueling work schedule that included a swift rise up the ranks, the lead on an ambitious national database project, and a commitment to the advancement of international medicine. She regularly traveled to foreign countries to aid medical workers in destitute communities. At home, Lisa made time for her family and friends, never passing up the opportunity for a fun adventure if she could fit it in between work commitments. She was physically active, but not focused on her own health.
In 2007 Lisa was diagnosed with round cell myxoid liposarcoma in her left ankle – basically, a cancerous tumor on the nerve in the inside of her left foot. Initial treatment options included amputation – a horrifying notion to an active woman who considered herself unlimited. Her course of treatment eventually consisted of surgical resection followed by radiation. The treatment left Lisa in a wheelchair, with months of physical therapy and a complete redefinition of the life in front of her.
The prospect of such a thing happening is daunting to even the most active people, and the event certainly did give Lisa pause and lots of time to feel sorry for herself. But something happened. Lisa’s grueling work with her physical therapist transformed her. She became obsessed with her progress, changing her diet and her lifestyle to maximize the healthy changes in her body. In that year, Lisa lost 75 pounds, regained her ability to walk, and decided to compete in a triathlon. After surgery and radiation that would have left most people barely able to walk within a year, Lisa completed that triathlon and became a true athlete – a person for whom physical activity was not just helpful, but necessary to her very spirit.
Lisa loved the rush of running, biking, and swimming. She craved exercise, even leaning on it to get her through emotional stress. Training was like therapy for her mind as well as her body. It was only fitting that she chose to compete in races for fundraising purposes as well. She was a very giving person, who used competitions as opportunities to educate and inspire everyone around her.
Lisa did not often dwell on the cancer in personal conversations. She preferred to keep her fear and suffering to herself. It was through her workouts and her goals of competition that she felt she was beating the cancer, that she was living her commitment to thrive, not just talking about it. In a way, as she wrote on her blog, although she never would have welcomed it, the cancer was a blessing, because her life was better after having gone through it.
In its infuriating way, the cancer came back to Lisa’s foot in late 2010. This time her treatment was more invasive – in addition to the tumor, part of the very nerve that gave feeling to the bottom of her left foot had to be removed. She was left with a numb foot, and far less mobility than after the first surgery.
But this time Lisa’s body was in much better shape to withstand the trauma of surgery and followup therapy, and by then she was addicted to exercise. Within days of the operation in January of 2011, her occupational therapist approved Lisa to do chair workouts. Within a month she was up on crutches, and soon she announced her commitment to compete in a triathlon only 8 months after surgery. On the way to that event, Lisa signed up with Team in Training, a group that brought her something she didn’t even realize she wanted: a new family. In them Lisa found people who were as fanatical about training as she was, and who were there for many of the same reasons.
This is a quote from her blog:
…it’s not just about the races, the athleticism. I want to give back to the cancer community that has supported me. I want fewer people to know this pain and fear. I want cancer in all its forms to become treatable, for fewer people to die. Raising money for Pediatric Cancer Research as a part of the Malibu Tri, raising money for the Leukemia and Lymphoma society as a part of training for the Walt Disney World half marathon – somehow this makes sense to me. It feels right. I chose to give back rather than kick, scream and cry. (Though, I’ve done that too).
When someone dies, we want to kick and scream and cry, and we do that, but then we need something else to do. Many, many people directed their grief and anger to Lisa’s Team in Training website and donated money so that her training would not be in vain. Because people all over the world feel her absence, Lisa’s efforts will still help cancer patients, and not just right now. Even after years pass and Lisa Kelly’s name is not on our lips every day, the work she did during her life will continue to silently, thanklessly help people.
She may not be here to run in the race this weekend, but Lisa’s shining energy that made people so happy will be carried on by her training comrades. This honor is not only for Lisa, but also for the spirit of hope that she represented. If this astounding fundraising success can happen because of one person, think about the power of what you are all doing. Lisa showed us that there is hope for us all.
Thank you so much for sharing Lisa with me. I find myself in fits and giggles thinking of her and the ass juice waitress.
I like the fits and giggles. I miss her and she was a new friend. I can’t imagine the hole she left in your life.
*biggest hug ever*
Run Lisa, Run. We’ll be sending good thoughts as we prep for next weekend’s half-marathon.
What an amazing tribute. Beyond touching. We all will pass at some point. It’s how we live, and touch others, that resonates and lasts. Clearly, Lisa mastered this.
Thanks everyone.
Kim, how you bear witness to Lisa’s legacy is a thing to behold.
I’m so so so sorry for your loss, but at the same time, honored to read about her through your words.
XO.
Deb
This is wonderful, Kim. Xxoo
I’m going to remind a friend of mine who is running this race to think of Lisa tomorrow.
Oh Kim this is so incredibly powerful & beautiful. I have tears in my eyes right now. I wish you could have travelled to read this in person. Though my trials pale in the face of the cancer Lisa fought, I feel much the same about the role of running and it’s power in my life. She will be in my thoughts as the other thousands of runners complete these 13.1 miles. And next month when I run my second half marathon at Disney she will be in my heart and mind every mile.
Lovely tribute to Lisa…I did not know her but wish that I did. Good thoughts for the marathon.
Beautiful!
Thank you for sharing this. I am a neonatologist and knew Lisa for several years through our profession. I had met her at a meeting about a month before she died and was in email communication with her just days before. I was shocked and deeply saddened by her passing. Your tribute to her is so fitting and captures her completely. I knew her as a committed and compassionate physician with love of life and strength of conviction to be envied. We all lost a dear person and friend. In sadness, Rashmin.
What a special friend you had – I am so sad that she didn’t have time to run that marathon. I will share her story and wish her team the best of luck xoxo
Beautiful words and beautiful picture of Lisa.
Beautifully written Kim… I am so sorry you have lost your friend – I know how hard this has been. Clearly she was a remarkable person.
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Phew what an incredible story of a truly remarkable woman – it is a loss for all who knew her and those of us who didn’t have the pleasure. Good Luck to the team and his praise for keeping her essence alive.
I didn’t know Lisa, but through this beautifully written post, I almost feel as if I did.
What an amazing tribute, Kim. I did not know her but after reading your words I feel that I did. I can’t even imagine what a loss this is. Hang in there – I know this is a tough road. Hugs to you.
Beautiful tribute to someone who appears to be a beautiful person. Lisa was lucky to have a friend like you.
I’ve been avoiding reading this post since you wrote it. I know how much you’re grieving and how much you miss her. I’ve never lost a friend and I hope I never do. I am sad that I never had the opportunity to meet Lisa, she sounds like a really amazing person. I’m sad that you’ve lost your friend and I’m sad that you’re sad. I think it helps that she was so amazing and loved by so many. You can all unite and miss her together. xo
This was a terrific tribute and a wonderful way to help those of us who didn’t know Lisa understand what she meant (and still means) to you–thanks for sharing it, Kim.